Reflection (c) 2013
The Bastardization of Us
First, I write this as an explorer and a learner, not as an authority in any field that I associate my work and my passions.
This is not to elicit sides, for I firmly stand my ground that opinions are not weapons.
Like many of you, I have long been doing “social media” even before it went “online”…a time when one could not hide behind the screen of anonymity…a time when a handshake and a hug was felt…truly felt by the warmth of it or unfelt by the rigidity of the action. A time when we could feel through touch first, reinforced by kind words and actions thereafter.
Yes, Social Media existed…it traveled between hearts of character without the speed of technology, but its target was always solid.
Much has changed. Speed of delivery has pushed and pushed, creating an “un-social” society drowning in the clamor of being heard, seen, touched and loved. And sadly, even friendships have turned into fierce competitions…all because we desire to garner the golden wheat (spotlight) from the festered chaff (Social Media)…alone.
I’ve observed and experienced certain notions lately that I am compelled to share respectfully. I hope that it may add to your own journeys of discovery and learning.
Social Bomber:
Observed Definition: People who constantly seek to be included in any and all social functions, events and gatherings, whether private or public…goes through great lengths to be the nucleus/center of said gathering…
“Don’t steal someone else’s thunder, be your own lightning” ~Henie Reisinger
“Don’t just seek the light at the end of the tunnel…be the light through it.” ~Henie Reisinger
Contacts Humping:
Observed Definition: People who seek you out and stealthily demand you share your contacts with them, by proxy…
“The most valuable antique is an old friend” ~ Unknown
“It takes a long time to grow an old friend.” ~ John Leonard
Alliance Shopping:
Observed Definition: People who suddenly call all your mutual friends or jump into your social stream with their own hidden agendas of convincing you and others to be on their “side”…
“Don’t worry about those who talk behind your back, they’re behind you for a reason.” ~ Unknown
“Silence is one of the hardest arguments to refute” ~ Josh Billings
MEcentric:
Observed Definition: People who are convinced that they are the nucleus of every conversation and action…if it’s good, it’s all about them; if it’s bad, it’s all about everyone else BUT them…
“A tiger doesn’t lose sleep over the opinion of sheep.” ~ Unknown
“People don’t seem to realize that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Again, I share this kindly and respectfully. Thank you for taking the time to read it.
{ 10 comments… read them below or add one }
Hey Marie…
Yes, we go way back, don’t we? Remember when I came to see you in San Juan Capistrano and regretfully we were not able to connect?
And what the heck happened to Carol Lee????
It really does take a long time to grow a dear old friend…
Love you my friend,
Henie
Awww, Vicky…
Thanks so much! Bacon really does a lot of good, lol! :-) <<< OMG! I actually read 'beacon' as 'bacon'…LOL!
But seriously, thank you for your kind words, Vicky…it means so much to me…am honored you call me a friend!
Stay amazing,
Henie
Thank you Jeannette!
That’s exactly what this is all about… ‘point of view’ :-) Amazing how it changes when you move from a certain spot just a bit! :-)
Love you,
Henie
My Dearest Dabney…
You have no idea how thrilled I am that you find my words worth reading. I truly believe that friendships do not need explanations, just exclamations! Yes, we’ll be sipping our cocktails side by side when we’re gorgeously old and gray! Cheers dear friend!
Adore you,
Henie
Hi Stephanie!
Thank you for taking the time to stop by. I posted this in hopes that we all learn from each other and that we realize how important it is to cherish each other!
Hugs,
Henie
Heine,
You and Carol Lee were the earliest Twitter friends I had. I am so glad to have finally met you in real life. I treasure my time with you and some of the others.
Thank you for sharing your perspective and insight.
Thank you for always being a beacon of honesty, integrity, inspiration and love. I so appreciate you, my friend.
Thank you for the definitions! I never realized this point of view. Love YOU!
Oh how fabulous you are Henie!
I am moved on so many levels by your words. What a wonderful post ~ Thanks for putting the words to what so many of us are feeling. As for the quote below:
“It takes a long time to grow and old friend.” ~ John Leonard
I look forward to growing our friendship daily! xoxo
This is a great post. So many times I have seen offenders who just don’t respect the rest of us and our hard work in building our “tribe.”
Couldn’t have said it better, if I tried.
Love this: “Don’t worry about those who talk behind your back, they’re behind you for a reason.” ~ Unknown
Thanks for the perspective and peace.